Sunday, January 20, 2008

To-do, to-do, to-do

I know everyone out there knows what I'm talking about, but it's been killing me lately that I can't seem to accomplish a single thing. You know, I have spare moments here and there of which I should be making the most of, but because I have no idea where to start, I end up just surfing the blogosphere and every other site imaginable before realizing that hours have passed and I still have accomplished nothing of relevance. I'm an extremely task oriented person and this third child has really thrown me for a loop. This grates on me...the fact that the laundry is piling up, the bathrooms need cleaning and I can't seem to keep even one room picked up...not to mention the myriad of tasks I'd like to tackle like scrapbooking, painting, etc. Every once in a while, after a particularly bad day, I have to remember to take a step back and realize that I wasn't meant to do it all. In fact, I find I am always working as if trying to reach an "end" and let's face it, we all know that's never going to come. And really, who wants it to anyway? I've decided that I can have two kinds of days: the day where I drop my kids in front of the TV babysitter and work like a dog ending the day with a clean house and a strong, albeit, short lived sense of accomplishment...or....I ignore everything (sometimes including the shower, personal care, food, etc.) and play the good and fun mom. At the end of this day, I don't always feel so powerful as I look around my surroundings and my untouched to-do list. But, the smiles and happiness I was able to share with my wonderful children mean so much more. In truth, we will never remember (or want to remember) or be remembered for how many loads of laundry we did in our lifetime, but we, along with others, will cherish the time we spent serving, teaching and playing! Isn't that what life is all about?

6 comments:

Shannon said...

Well said. That topic has been on my mind lately too. It must be a universal MOM experience. I really don't know how the working ones get it done. I have all day and can't.

Shannon said...

Oh ya, here I am commenting on your blog, it's late, and I shoulbe doing dishes so we can eat breakfast tomorrow. Is that the kind of wasting time you were talking about? (smile).

Porters said...

Becky,

I can't believe you found me on the blog world after so long! And of course I remember you! I love seeing your blog...your family is so cute. I can't wait to find out more from Autumn about how they know you. We love Charlie & Autumn...such a small world. I'm so glad to have your blog address so I can keep up to date on things. Do you know how anyone else from the Bingham House is? Crazy house of ten!

Autumn said...

Motherhood is the best! Did I shower this morning no my house is clean and kids are fed though. And number three is three weeks away. Small world you know Julie:)

Kizzycakes said...

word to your kids' mom. i think i need to print that out and put it on my fridge. thanks for the reminder!

Shalece said...

Ya I sit here in my pj's reading this when I should be doing everything else.. haha :) Know the feeling