Accessory Challenged

Friday, March 18, 2011

I am accessory challenged. Shoes, handbags, jewelry, sweaters, belts, anything that adds and “makes” the outfit…I am completely unable to choose. Tonight we had a wedding reception to go to and I was having one of those days. Sometimes those days hit me hard, harder than I can handle. I remember once spending over an hour trying to find something to wear. It went on for too long and I was reduced to hopelessness and tears. I ended up staying home….alone, all because of a perceived lack of clothes.

Tonight was shaping up to be just like that, only this time I had a little powerhouse ally. Ava was fighting in my corner and I never imagined how much that could mean. She saw me changing outfit, after outfit, trying to work with the few accessories I have. She would then race to my rescue with her belts, her necklaces, scarves, and anything else she could scrounge up. She would call from the other room, “Mom, will gold match?” and “Mom, what about brown?”

I knew I could not fall to pieces. I could not show my daughter by my actions how important looks and clothing can be, because intellectually, I know the empty truth. There was no way I would fall apart and prove the opposite.

Then this came out of her mouth;

“Mom, it doesn’t matter what you wear. Just wear whatever you want; no one will laugh at you. Sometimes people laugh and you can feel sad but you look beautiful so it doesn’t matter.”

I love that little girl with the sweet and tender heart. I couldn’t help but feel wonderful. The Lord has truly blessed me with an angel.

Now how lucky would I be if she grows up to be a wiz at the details, a master at putting together the finishing touches? That’s why we have daughters...to save us from our own bad fashion decisions.